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Help! My child has withdrawal behavior

More than 100,000 children a year suffer from a defecation problem, think constipation and poopy pants. Bloating behavior due to stress, distraction and (stimulus) sensitivity often play a role. Consequence? Bloating in the head, which can translate into bloating in the belly. Recognizable?

Shit in the head

Help! My child exhibits holding up behaviors and so arise poop problems. Which children behave like this? Children with a sensitive nature, who are perfectionistic or suffering from fear of failure (basically the same thing) and are smart, have a strong will, pile up emotions - meaning 'shit' in the head - are likely to withhold.

ADHD and autism

This sensitivity, stress and tension are more common in children with ADHD and autism than in those without. In addition to daily stimuli and worries and thoughts that trigger this, they find it difficult to deal with changes and social interaction with other children requires a lot of energy from them.

Shit gives stress

Everything that goes on in the experiential world and all the experiences your child goes through needs to be processed. The head, the brain can handle that, but with sensitive children you see that it is often too much. Stress! And as a result, your child listens to the strongest and most fun stimuli. The poop stimulus is not so much fun.

Stress creates tension

Because it is so busy in your child's head and your child does not know how to make choices (this is not intentional), your child becomes stressed, braces himself and (unconsciously) tightens the muscles. Letting go of thoughts and worries becomes difficult, but so does letting go of poop, so your child starts exhibiting withdrawal behavior. Relaxation then becomes distant.


So how do you get your (stimulus) sensitive child to relax? First, look for your child's stress points. See what stress points you can address. Structure, explanation, reassurance help. Make sure your child's schedule is not crowded, create space to let go.


So space to let go is needed and for that you have to create a safe framework, a handhold. You do that by limiting, setting boundaries and clear agreements. Some parents think this is about coercion, but that is done out of powerlessness. Being clear is done from strength and that gives results.


As crazy as it may sound; holding on to something makes sure that your child's holding behavior will decrease. That your child can stand in his own power and dares to let go. Pooping is nothing but letting go. Do you find it difficult to deal with this part with your child? I like to help you with my The SuperPooper Plan.

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